1) The first pregnancy is an incredible gift. It is the joy of knowing that your body can work
miracles and bring a mini me into the world. We told the parentals and sibling
immediately and made the social media announcements as soon as we hit the 12
week mark. For number 2, it was still amazing joy and love for the little bunch
of cells. But we waited an extra week for confirmation from the doc before
telling the family. And it has been 22 weeks and counting – and we still
haven’t made the social media announcement.
2) With the first pregnancy, I knew exactly how far along I was, right down to the days. I counted down the weeks and days left for D-day. I could rattle off the veggie / fruit comparison, size and weight of the bub and what it was up to in my womb. For the second one, I have to rely on a pregnancy tracker app to tell me how far along I am and the current weight. Speaking of, hold on while I check bub’s size. Oh, it’s a spaghetti squash.
3) First pregnancy had us thinking about baby names as soon as we knew the gender. We had lists of potentials that we discussed, sounded out, googled meanings about and eventually had one name on the list when T was born. FYI, for WEEKS we initially wanted to call her Naya, which means bitch in Malayalam. Thank goodness for google that we didn’t have to reveal our extreme ignorance of our mother tongue. 2nd one – I decided on a name from the start. And we both like it. Haven’t come up with any new names yet. To be honest, haven't been doing a lot of research on names so far..
4) Clothes! First one had us shopping for onesies and jumpsuits from the start. Bought cute little tops, pants, vests, socks and everything else a newborn could wear. We had clothes in all the sizes until she would turn 6 months. The second one is getting hand me downs from her big sister. But we still need to buy the new born clothes because we donated T’s first outfits when we moved. Bub 2 must be pleased with this.
5) Baby gear! Same story as above. The planning started early and the buying went all out. All sorts of shit that I used once and then stopped. Or never used. I learnt my lesson, you big baby marketing companies! Bub 2 is getting the bare essentials and nothing else. I guess the other influencer is that we used to live in a 4 bedroom house. Now we have a 1 bedroom apartment.
6) There are a billion and one articles around the web that tells pregnant women what to eat, what not to eat, how much to eat, how to eat and which side to chew on. I followed all the guidelines strictly for the first pregnancy. With the 2nd one, I am avoiding raw food and alcohol. Otherwise, bring on the hot dogs, deli meats, salad bars, chips, chocolates and everything else!
7) Similar to what not to eat, there are also a million articles on what to do, what not to do, how to do things etc. Can you image, there is even advice on how to sleep! First pregnancy I lay on my left side all the time, even though I had terrible heartburn. 2nd pregnancy I have lain in all positions, including my stomach and back.
8) Gender. I had very high expectations on what order I wanted the kids' gender to be. Boy then girl. Because that is what I grew up with. When we found out T was a girl, it took me a few days to get over the disappointment. With the second bub, it took me 1 second to digest the fact that we are having another girl and then I got all excited. I was just happy to have a healthy, fully formed baby kicking around inside me.
Maybe with hindsight, I now know what to expect and what I need when baby comes. Maybe because I am constantly chasing a toddler I don't have time to spend hours planning the best outfits and baby gear. The similarity between the two pregnancies is that I cant wait to meet this little bug when the time is right. I love you both and I pray for you both to be happy and loved all your lives.
2) With the first pregnancy, I knew exactly how far along I was, right down to the days. I counted down the weeks and days left for D-day. I could rattle off the veggie / fruit comparison, size and weight of the bub and what it was up to in my womb. For the second one, I have to rely on a pregnancy tracker app to tell me how far along I am and the current weight. Speaking of, hold on while I check bub’s size. Oh, it’s a spaghetti squash.
3) First pregnancy had us thinking about baby names as soon as we knew the gender. We had lists of potentials that we discussed, sounded out, googled meanings about and eventually had one name on the list when T was born. FYI, for WEEKS we initially wanted to call her Naya, which means bitch in Malayalam. Thank goodness for google that we didn’t have to reveal our extreme ignorance of our mother tongue. 2nd one – I decided on a name from the start. And we both like it. Haven’t come up with any new names yet. To be honest, haven't been doing a lot of research on names so far..
4) Clothes! First one had us shopping for onesies and jumpsuits from the start. Bought cute little tops, pants, vests, socks and everything else a newborn could wear. We had clothes in all the sizes until she would turn 6 months. The second one is getting hand me downs from her big sister. But we still need to buy the new born clothes because we donated T’s first outfits when we moved. Bub 2 must be pleased with this.
5) Baby gear! Same story as above. The planning started early and the buying went all out. All sorts of shit that I used once and then stopped. Or never used. I learnt my lesson, you big baby marketing companies! Bub 2 is getting the bare essentials and nothing else. I guess the other influencer is that we used to live in a 4 bedroom house. Now we have a 1 bedroom apartment.
6) There are a billion and one articles around the web that tells pregnant women what to eat, what not to eat, how much to eat, how to eat and which side to chew on. I followed all the guidelines strictly for the first pregnancy. With the 2nd one, I am avoiding raw food and alcohol. Otherwise, bring on the hot dogs, deli meats, salad bars, chips, chocolates and everything else!
7) Similar to what not to eat, there are also a million articles on what to do, what not to do, how to do things etc. Can you image, there is even advice on how to sleep! First pregnancy I lay on my left side all the time, even though I had terrible heartburn. 2nd pregnancy I have lain in all positions, including my stomach and back.
8) Gender. I had very high expectations on what order I wanted the kids' gender to be. Boy then girl. Because that is what I grew up with. When we found out T was a girl, it took me a few days to get over the disappointment. With the second bub, it took me 1 second to digest the fact that we are having another girl and then I got all excited. I was just happy to have a healthy, fully formed baby kicking around inside me.
Maybe with hindsight, I now know what to expect and what I need when baby comes. Maybe because I am constantly chasing a toddler I don't have time to spend hours planning the best outfits and baby gear. The similarity between the two pregnancies is that I cant wait to meet this little bug when the time is right. I love you both and I pray for you both to be happy and loved all your lives.
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